Transforming How We Communicate With Our Child
Transforming How We Communicate with Our Child
Episode 15: Show Notes.
Today I am joined again by Stephen Spitalny to talk about communicating with young children and simple ways to transform this for the better. Stephen is a teacher at the Santa Cruz Waldorf School and is the author of three books and numerous articles on the subject of early childhood. He has also hosted a number of workshops and courses all over the world! Stephen has joined me for a series of conversations and today we delve into talking about communicating with a young child and the best ways to approach this. Stephen unpacks the five steps that he offers for effective and healthy communication, going through speaking less, speaking slowly, speaking the truth, using the word 'but' sparingly, and positive use of the word 'no'. After unpacking each of these important aspects we move on to the related topics of healthy boundaries, creating real freedom for a child, praise, and learning through imitation. A big takeaway from today's conversation and one that we underline at the end is the need for transformation within the adult, and the somewhat obvious responsibility we have when setting an example for children. So for all of these helpful and inspiring thoughts, be sure to join us today!
Key Points From This Episode:
- The idea of speaking less and why to think about using fewer words when communicating something important.
- Speaking slowly and allowing children the time to process what is said.
- Practices around speaking the truth and leading by example in this regard.
- Why Stephen recommends avoiding the word 'but' as much as possible.
- The use of the word 'no'; creating safe and healthy boundaries for children.
- Creating true freedom and allowing children to exercise creativity within a framework.
- Stephen's thoughts on the best ways to communicate with children around achievement.
- Leading by example when trying to help children learn good behaviors and manners.
- Creating good habits by allowing children to learn through imitation.
- A final message from Stephen about the necessary transformation within the adult.
Stephen Spitalny's Books
-Conscious Parenting: A Guide to Living with Young Children
- Connecting with Young Children: Educating the Will
- What's the Story? Storytelling with Young Children as a Path Toward Living Happily Ever
After
We Nurture Collective
Conscious Parenting: A Guide to Living with Young Children on Amazon
